BIG Naija wedding syndrome

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In recent times, a lot of intending couples have been under pressure to have a high budget wedding, for some, it is now a sort of  competition; no thanks to social media!

This starts with the long lists presented to the groom by the brides family to expectations of a big societal wedding from parents and family, sometimes even the parents are more excited than the kids sef, so they want to go all out. You see fathers proudly saying ' My daughter is getting married' and mothers dishing out invites as if it is her wedding.
The couple are not left out of this as they want their wedding to be a grand celebration, after all it is in a once in a lifetime celebration.

Now I am not against spending a lot on your wedding if you can afford it, what irks me is the recent culture of 'keeping up with the joneses' , I must do wedding by force people. You see them create all forms of camouflage for borrowing/begging : - Committee of friends  (Oh, I so hate this one! ), Launching or semi launching using the breaking of kolanuts at the wedding reception #RME, delaying refreshments at the wedding reception till after the couple dance, so that guests wont leave before they spray money, and all sorts of tactics.

My rule is do not go out of your way to have a big wedding! Infact, if you cannot afford a simple wedding, then maybe you do not have a business with getting married YET.

I had an 'average' wedding some years back and looking back I wish I had cut down on some unnecessary things, a small intimate ceremony would have sufficed.

The truth is, if you have a big wedding, people will still have things to complain about, if you don't, they still will talk, so the ceremony is about you and not them after-all.

However, it is important to focus on some areas and leave out the extras if you cannot afford it. 

1. Refreshment; This tops my list, if you invite someone to your event, you should feed             them, so make sure this aspect is fully  covered.

2.  Wedding attire: Whatever you choose to wear, make sure your outfit is ready and stands      out, this does not necessarily mean expensive. 

3. Photography and coverage; this is equally important as it is something you would always       look at  when the guests are gone.

I am sure there are a couple more areas to focus on, but these 3 tops my lists. Kindly drop yours in the comment section.